Male Friends

[PAT #A]

I have a male friend for almost 37 years who was thinking of moving closer to me. My husband after meeting him got real mad and said he thought if this friend moved here I would put him second. This is of course not true. Any body out there with a situation like this. Just need to vent.

[Gypsy Rose]

I don't believe it's a good idea for your male friend to move closer to you. That's not to say that you would put your friend first but your husband's feelings are understandable.

[George G]

You did not explain the relationship with your male friend. However, many people lack the maturity and can not understand that those of the opposite sex can have a beautiful platonic relationship often based on common interests or lifelong friendship which can be as close as brother and sister.

I pity those who have never had such friends.

Good Luck. Best Wishes.

George

[Deni53]

Pat
I had a similar situation with my late husband. I had a long time male friend and he was not happy that after my hubby moved to be with me {before we were married} he said either him or my friend. Sadly, I had to lose contact with my male friend. It was not a happy outcome for me either way. Sorry to say

[Gypsy Rose]

You did not explain the relationship with your male friend. However, many people lack the maturity and can not understand that those of the opposite sex can have a beautiful platonic relationship often based on common interests or lifelong friendship which can be as close as brother and sister.

I pity those who have never had such friends.

Good Luck. Best Wishes.

George
Having a beautiful platonic relationship sounds great but I don't believe it would be a simple as you state when there is a 3rd party who should be the first consideration.

[wombat]

Hi Pat, I read about your problem and you ask for opinions so please understand that what is offered is just an opinion. I was discussing something like this with a friend just today and I guess my opinion is that while it is truly nice to have eally good friends, your life partner is the most important person in your life and I think that you know how much you love them when, in times of making a decision, their happiness comes before your own. I guess I also think of it in terms of how would you (truly) feel if the situation were reversed. Do you renmember that old saying that went something like 'if you truly love something let it go. If it comes back to you it was truly yours, if it doesn't, it never was yours. It is a curious thing that so often, the minute we say "ok I will do what you want because I love you.the response comes back 'no its ok .do it'. I just think partners need to actually experience you putting them before any other person in your life and then they feel secure.
As I said, just an opinion. Hope you do'n mind.............wombat

[Joyous]

Pat, I had to let go of a friendship with a male when I met my mate of 22 years. The relationship had been fine with my former husband, but not my mate.

[Joyous]

I cannot believe this is actually working for me!!!!! Yippeeeeeee!!!